Month: December 2020

Proverbs 1:32  “For simpletons turn away from me—to death. Fools are destroyed by their own complacency.”

Last week I talked a bit about apathy, but today I would like to talk a little bit about its not too distant cousin, complacency.  Apathy is being disengaged with the surrounding world and circumstances whereas complacency is being satisfied with less than the surrounding  world and circumstances have to offer.  

Complacency is settling for less than what we should because we have a false sense of contentment.  It makes us sit back on our hands instead of forging ahead in our spiritual lives.  Unfortunately, complacency is the disease that everyone denies having.  As we all know, however, the first step in getting well is admitting we have a problem.

Complacent Christians have the idea that they have arrived.  In America this is an especially easy state of mind to fall into.  We have it pretty easy compared to the rest of the world.  Why should we get callouses on our knees praying when we have almost all we want and more.  Unfortunately, when we lack any feeling of need or desperation, we get sloppy in our worship.   

Barna Research reports that since the nineties, Americans have become more spiritually complacent. 40% of born again Christians do not attend church or read the Bible in a typical week, 30% are not “absolutely committed to the Christian faith” and 70% are not involved in a small group that meets for spiritual purposes. The percentage of adults who can be classified as “born again” rose from 35% from the early 90s to 41% in the early 2000s. However, participation in 4 key behaviors declined and have continued to decline in this century; Bible reading (down from 45% to 37%); church attendance (from 49% to 42%); volunteering at church (from 27% to 20%); and adult Sunday school attendance (from 23% to 19%).   The recent Covid scare has not helped matters.  It is predicted that many of the people who have gotten in the habit of not attending due to Covid will not attend after Covid.   

There is a story of a tool company that manufactured drill bits. Faced with financial losses, company executives gathered to discuss the problem: a declining demand for drill bits. The CEO challenged his men: “How can we revive the bit market?” After an embarrassing silence, one member of the team dispelled the fog: “Sir, the market isn’t for bits–its for holes!” This simple truth illustrates what the church needs to recognize.  Complacent people feel fulfilled because they don’t feel needy. People are not in the market for spiritual activity because they don’t see a need for spiritual activity.     When someone needs to drill a hole he will think about buying a drill bit and when someone needs to fill a hole in his life he will look for a place to fill it.   In this time the church needs to be that place for unbelievers and believers alike.

There is the story of three demons who were exchanging ideas to bring about the downfall of man.  The first said, “Let’s tell them there is no God.”  The second said, “Let’s tell them there is no Hell.”  The third said, “Let’s tell them that there is no hurry.”  It seems to me that they settled on the third suggestion.

Revelation warns us about this complacency in the future.  “I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot; I wish that you were cold or hot. So because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of My mouth. Because you say, ‘I am rich, and have become wealthy, and have need of nothing,’ and you do not know that you are wretched and miserable and poor and blind and naked,”  (Revelation 3:15-17)  Is that the future or has the future arrived?   God warns us of being lukewarm because it is more dangerous than being hot or cold.  It has just enough heat to make us believe that we are okay.  That kind of deception is a favorite ploy of Satan and many in the church seem to be falling for it.

There is a great story about the famous, fiery English pastor, A.J. Gordon, who became the pastor at a large, well-established, but cold Boston church.  After just a few weeks many of the senior members of the congregation moved to oust him because of his bold condemnation of the lifelessness of the church.  After about a month, right before the axe was about to fall he gave a sermon called “The funeral of the Church.”  It was a no-holds-barred, tell-it-the-way-it-is, God’s-Word-is-His-Word sermon.   The theme was that the church was a casket and like a casket there was no room for converts because coffins are built for only the dead.  He warned them of impending disaster if they did not repent.  It was an hour of truth.  Toward the end of the sermon the doors in the back of the church swung open and six solemn-faced pall bearers carried a casket up to the front.  Pastor Gordon lifted the lid and challenged the congregation to file past the coffin to view the deceased on the way out.  In the coffin, you guessed it, a giant mirror.

It seems to me that too many of us today need to look in the mirror to see if our complacency is leading unto death.  Paul tells us,  “Test yourselves to see if you are in the faith; examine yourselves! Or do you not recognize this about yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you–unless indeed you fail the test?”  (2 Corinthians 13:5)   It is hard to change others, but we can start with ourselves.  Have we become “fat and sassy” in our christian lives?  Are we going through the motions because that is all it takes anymore?  Do we put more time into the needless and neglect the needful?   We need to be cautious so that we don’t fall into the trap that Paul warns us of in Corinthians,   “Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed that he does not fall.”  (1 Corinthians 10:1)

So it is time for the church put on its big-boy pants.  It is hard to put pants on someone else, so we should worry about our own legs first, but we shouldn’t be shy about pointing out lack of fervor in the Body of Christ.  It is time to take our spiritual lives seriously even if things are going so well that it seems we don’t need God.  That is, of course, facetious.  No matter how it seems, we need God.  We should not be fooled.  The demons have lied.  There is a hurry and those around us could use our hurriedness on their behalf.

‘And I will say to my soul, “Soul, you have many goods laid up for many years to come; take your ease, eat, drink and be merry.”‘   Luke 12:19

It seems that the ability in this day and age to record video on our phones and send it instantly around the world has changed how we intervene in difficult situations.  The other day I saw a store video of man who had a heart attack and the car he was driving careened through the front doors of a store.  Before the car even reached the glass there were people with their phones out recording the whole thing.  When the car finally came to a halt with the man slumped over the wheel there were four people with their phones pointed toward the car and none of them made a move to help the driver.  I am sure they eventually did, but not before they got  video evidence that they could send to friends or news media or TMZ.  Their first instinct wasn’t to help, but to record.  That inward desire to help those in need might be on the decrease in the world, but it should not be that way for the church.

Apathy is defined as absence or suppression of passion, emotion, or excitement or a lack of interest in or concern for things that others find moving or exciting.  It is indifference to others concerns or needs.  It is the opposite of empathy which is the act of deeply identifying with someone else’s feelings or needs.  They say that when a husband feels sympathy for his wife’s uncomfortable pregnancy, he feels sorry for her.  When he has empathy, he gets morning sickness as well!  We live in an every increasing place of apathy rather than empathy.  Stories like the one above are becoming the norm, not the exception.  But that should not be the church.  We should, at the least, be the last bastion of concern for others in a world that promotes concern for self.  Not only should we be quick to help in specific times of need, we should not be hesitant to step out to a hurting world with our good news of the healing Christ.

Even though the word empathy or its Greek equivalent cannot be found in the New Testament, the idea of empathy can be found many places. The apostle Peter counseled Christians to have “compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous . . .” (1 Peter 3:8) and the apostle Paul recommended similar sentiments when he exhorted fellow Christians to “rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep” (Romans 12:15).  No one should have a more deep-seated concern for others than the Body of Christ.  Jesus showed more empathy on our behalf than anyone who has ever lived and we need to convey that sacrificial heart to those around us by the way we live.  Our call in God’s Word is to be called to empathy, not apathy, yet even in the church, apathy is beginning to rear its ugly head.

I once asked a student what apathy was and he said, “I don’t know, and I don’t care.”  He was kidding, but it was almost a perfect definition!  I once heard that the nice thing about apathy is you don’t have to exert yourself to show you’re sincere about it.  Unfortunately, there are many today that are especially sincere about their apathy.  As we look at the growing crises around us, we can’t allow ourselves to be hardened to the to the point that we don’t notice the needs.  I heard about a company that recently came out with blank bumper stickers.  They were for people who don’t want to get involved!  Well, that cannot be us.  We need to be involved because we have a message of love that the world needs.  If not, the penalty we pay for not being involved in the things of this world will be that the world will be governed by those who don’t love.  It would be careless for us to allow the world to be run by those who care less.

We should be the first to come to those in need.  Whether it is friend who is distraught or the co-worker who feels caught, we must read the feelings around us and be ready to respond.  John told us that, “Whoever has this world’s goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of God abide in him?” (1 John 3:17)  We must look for opportunities to intentionally show love to one another.  Apathy blinds us, but empathy enlightens us.  Others pain or distress or dilemma should be the impetus for us to spring into action.   Jesus said that the second of the great commandments after loving God is to “Love your neighbor as yourself.”  (Matthew 22:39)   That doesn’t sound like apathy, but empathy.  Peter reiterates this in his book when he says, “Above all, maintain an intense love for each other, since love covers a multitude of sins.” (1 Peter 4:8)   Empathy should be the glasses that we look at others through.  If we do that, it will free us up to love as the Bible instructs.  Someone once said that empathy is your pain in my heart.  How apt a notion.

Years ago a very rich and influential man by the name of Cecil Rhodes threw a gala event to which he invited a young man.  Cecil Rhodes, whose fortune would eventually endow the famous Rhodes Scholarship, was a stickler for proper dress at these events.  Strangely, he disappeared shortly before the banquet began.  The young man who had been invited came straight from the train station and was embarrassed about his appearance.  He was in total disarray, yet he was surrounded by the most finely dressed people in the city.  Cecil Rhodes, reappeared after his untimely dissappearance wearing a rumpled and plain looking blue suit.  He walked up and greeted his young invitee.  Rhodes had heard of his friends dilemma ahead of time and went out to change into a suit that would take the sting off his friend’s embarrassment.   It worked and it also taught a valuable lesson to all who were in attendance.

We have a God who emphasizes with our plights.  He personally feels our pain.  More than that, He personally experienced our pain.  Even more that than He took our pain upon Himself.  That is the greatest act of empathy that has every been displayed in the history of the world.  God knows our hurts.  The psalmist tells us, “You number my wanderings; put my tears into Your bottle; are they not in Your book?” (Psalm 56:8).  What a comfort it is to know that God tracks our every tear.  What a comfort we would be to others if we noticed their tea

Jesus is our good shepherd and He is alert to our needs.  Because we have the good shepherd in our lives, we too can look around us to others needs.  When Elaine and I were coming home from Lebanon awhile back, we saw a huge herd of sheep in a field.  All the sheep formed a large circle and right in the middle away from all the other sheep were two black sheep.  I guess the saying about the black sheep being ostracized is really true.  It was so strange looking, that I almost wanted to take a picture of it.  That kind of estrangement might be okay with sheep, but it should not be with people.  When we see people who are separated or needy or hurting, they don’t need to be photographed, they need to be helped.  We have that help, no matter the problem.  Christ is the great physician and His love is the balm that can heal all wounds.   We are like spiritual EMTs and need to be on call at all times.

Christ’s love is more than walking in other’s moccasins.  It is giving them our own.  Christ walked in ours then gave Himself for us, that we might not have to barefoot in a rocky world.  Let’s follow His example.

“And every work that he undertook in the service of the house of God and in accordance with the law and the commandments, seeking his God, he did with all his heart, and prospered.” 2 Chronicles 31:21

There is a saying in sports that is heard over and over.  Coaches say it to players and players say it to players.  It has become one of the primary reasons for mistakes in an athletic contest, no matter what the sport.  It is the line I have said hundreds of times when coaching football, wrestling, softball, and track.  What is this single line that plagues athletes in every sport?  “Move your feet!”  Whether it is a basketball player that is beaten on a drive, a volleyball player who doesn’t get to a serve, or a football player that is beaten on a block, it is so often the same- the athletes are beaten because they don’t move their feet.  The equivalent of not moving our feet in our spiritual lives is not taking action.  Not moving the feet is usually a show of fatigue, laziness, or lack of preparation.   Those same things can hurt us in our Christian walk as well.

We need to be people of action.  Peter called out to Jesus, but still had to step out of the boat onto the surface of the water.  Abraham believed God, but illustrated it by striking off into the unknown.  Moses came to the Red Sea but raised his arms to God because he believed there was no dead ends with God.

A  woman with the issue of blood believed so strongly in the healing power of Christ that she fought through the crowd just to touch his robe and was healed.  Each one of these people took action that matched their beliefs.  This is faith. Jesus said, ‘Follow me’ when he called His disciples; he was not just saying believe, but to act on those beliefs.  He is still saying that to us today.

Moving our feet is important because it shows more than just lip service.  Some parents will say something across the room ten times before actually moving their feet to help or to prevent some action of their child.  But walking across the room takes more effort than just talking across the room.  That goes for our relationship with God as well.  Peter could have sat in the boat and said all day long that he believed in the miraculous power of Jesus, but the one act of stepping out of the boat said more than a thousand words while sitting in it.   There is a humorous story of a man who falls off a cliff and grabs a protruding root.  He suddenly hears a booming voice and he asks who it is.  The voice says, “I am God and I will save you.”  The man replies that he believes Him, so what should he do?  God says, “Let go of the root.”  The man hesitates for a moment and asks, “Is there anyone else up there I can talk to?”  We probably will not ever be in that situation, but we will be in others when God asks us to trust Him through His Word and our reactions to that will paint a vivid picture of our true beliefs in Him.

First John 3:18 says, “Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.”  As I have quoted many a time, the smallest deed is greater than the grandest intention.  We are to be active Christians, not passive.  “What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, ‘Go in peace, be warmed and filled,’ without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that?”  (James 2:14-16)  Our outward actions should reflect our inward beliefs.   If we do not act upon our beliefs in God we are merely professors of God’s Word, not possessors of His Word.  There should be something that separates us from the rest of the world and “moving our feet” or being active for God should be part of that separation.

There is a difference between waiting “on the Lord” and waiting “for the Lord.”   One means the relying on the continual support of the Lord and the other waits for God to act before we do anything.  Ecclesiastes tells us that there is a time for sowing and a time for reaping, a time for laughing and a time for weeping, but there is also a time for waiting and a time for acting.   We are in times when people expect a lot to be handed to them without taking action.  That can be the same for Christians.  We wait for God to do something.  So often the Word directs us to action, but we wait for God to yell in our ear before doing something.  Unfortunately, the time of God yelling in our ear has passed.  He gave us the Word to be His voice.  While we sit around waiting for God give us something to do, He has already given us something to do.  We just don’t see it.

The old story about the man who prays for years to win the lottery (we will skip the obvious theological conflict here) and finally hears God’s voice telling him he needs to buy a ticket is more than a cute story.  It is often us.  We want to receive without doing.  Don’t confuse this with the famous Bible verse that is not in the Bible, “God helps those who help themselves,” but God does expect us to be obedient.  Think of how history would be changed if people in the Bible had not followed through on their faith.   Our expectations are high, but too often, our efforts are low.  Years ago mom and I went to see Asher and Noah play soccer. It was fun.  I spoke to a spectator on the sidelines before the game and he shared about his Christian faith and he said how important it was to him.  Later, he proceeded to get in an argument with the referee during the game, at halftime, and even after the game.  A better action that would have illustrated his belief would have been to be quiet and protect his witness.  After all, he did nothing to help the kids, the crowd, the ref, or God.  But not acting out would have necessitated “moving his feet” and making an effort to avoid the obvious contradiction between his great faith and his right to downgrade someone else.

In First Peter we are told,   “Therefore, preparing your minds for action, and being sober-minded, set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ.”  (1 Peter 1:13)  We need to be prepared for action, not for sitting on our hands.  We need to “move our feet,” and act on our faith.  There is a famous story of how General Stonewall Jackson’s army found itself stranded on the wrong side of the river during a crucial point of the war and had to get across.  General Jackson told his engineers to plan and build a bridge so the army could cross, and he also called his wagon master in to tell him that it was urgent the wagon train cross the river as soon as possible. The wagon master started gathering all the logs, rocks and fence rails he could find and built a bridge.  Long before day light General Jackson was told by his wagon master all the wagons and artillery had crossed the river. General Jackson asked where the engineers were and what were they doing?  The wagon master’s only reply was that they were in their tent drawing up plans for a bridge.  That is sometimes what we do, we sit around drawing up plans for God, when others just go out and do the work of God.

We should seek the will of God, but seeking should also result in doing.  I heard one of my favorite authors being interviewed on the radio one day and I will paraphrase what he said that struck me as true.  He said that to be a writer, a person must write.  A true writer cannot wait around for inspiration, he must write.  A true writer cannot go down to the beach and wait for the right mood to come upon him.  A writer must write.  Sometimes he may not even feel like it, but a writer must write.  He said he tires of all the namby-pamby writers now who spend half their life waiting to be inspired.  A writer must write.  I can see an application in that for us.  As Christians we can’t wait around for the spirit to move us when God has already given us instructions to move. Christians must act! Do we have to be inspired to give to the poor, give the gospel, or give our best?  The Word has already said that.  Christians must act!

God has plans for us, but we need to be an active part of that plan.  God is not a puppet master and we the marionettes who need to wait for Him to raise our arms and move our feet.  Jesus didn’t knock Peter out of the boat, Peter stepped out on his own.   We need to step out of the boat.  We need to “move our feet.”

“But a man who commits adultery lacks judgment, whoever does so destroys himself.” Proverbs 6:32

“So far, so good.”  That was heard coming from a man passing by the third story of a skyscraper after falling out of a window on the fiftieth floor.  He was, in essence, correct, but only for a few more feet.  That is also the common belief of those who find themselves caught up in sinful acts.  After falling from the window of faith, things might seem pretty good for awhile on the way down and that will lead to a false sense of security.  The proverbs verse above isolates the sin of adultery, but there are many sinful behaviors that can be penciled into the verse.  The point is that every fall has its terrible conclusion and denying it on the way down does not change God’s law anymore than the denial of gravity can change a rapid descent.

Lack of judgment leads to self-destruction. Once one decides to take the path of poor judgement, there are fewer and fewer routes back to righteousness.  The root cause of poor judgment is self-deception.  Once we entertain first steps of sin, each step gets easier.  The first step is always the hardest, but the easiest to return from.  Every step taken after that is harder to return from, and soon, return seems out of the question.  At some point pride will take hold of us and return to the right path becomes admission of wrongdoing, and that is sometimes too hard to face.  We might say we would rather be in misery than admit that we caused the misery.  Self-destruction is accompanied by some very typical behaviors.  If we understand those, maybe we can help others who are going down the wrong path or at the least will avoid our own trips off the straight and narrow.

It is important to know that the domino of bad choices never starts in isolation.  It normally entails a sequence of unwise decisions, each one escalating in severity.  The steps of sin are slow and short at first and then pick up in speed and stride until they may even reach a sprint.  I ‘ve watched many a marathon  and I notice that there are check points along the way where coaches will shout out instructions and the runners will often change their tactics to keep going strong.  When someone is in a sin marathon, there are tactics, outlined by Coach Satan for every step of the way.  Dutifully, it seems, everyone on his team follows his instructions to the tee.

First of all, those in sin must separate themselves from spiritual truth-tellers. They must avoid places where these people hang out.  Church, Bible studies, and other Christian haunts are off limits.  They must avoid being alone with anyone who might try to bring the Bible into the conversation.  Of course, those people must be replaced with others.  Non-Christians are fine, but the best people to hang with are wishy-washy Christians with milquetoast spirituality who  emphasize passive tolerance for all behavior.  These kinds of Christians are great because they give the illusion that the backslider has not totally left the faith, and lends some credence of credibility to his actions.  Eventually, in the later stages, even these pseudo-Christians will be left behind because even their wimpy Christianity is too much for completely backslidden turncoats.  Those falling away must put themselves in the position to avoid the truth from Ecclesiastes: “It is better to heed the rebuke of a wise person than to listen to the song of fools.”  (Ecclesiastes 7:5)  Instead, they listen to the songs of fools and eventually join the choir themselves.

Secondly, after people and places begin to be left behind, new habits will replace the old ones. Habits that were rejected for years suddenly become palpable and eventually habitual.  Hobbies and interests will change and such things like music and movies degrade to an explicable low level.  We are warned about this behavior in Romans: “And let not your behavior be like that of this world, but be changed and made new in mind, so that by experience you may have knowledge of the good and pleasing and complete purpose of God.” (Romans 12:2)  At first the wanderers  begin to play at their worship and worship their play, but eventually they abandon their worship and live for their play.  There may be sporadic returns to the people and places of their life in the spirit, but it will be short-lived because there are too many references to “do the right thing” and “obey God’s Word” and “avoid sin” and all kinds of intolerant and discriminatory verbiage.  But those brief returns are just enough for the wanderer to blame future absences on the prejudice of obviously hypocritical Christians.

Lastly, but really all along the way, the self-destructive backslider must put the blame on everyone else.  He cannot be to blame.  After all, he did his best and everyone else let him down.  He gave God a try, but God was found wanting.  They deceive themselves into thinking they have it all figured out and everyone else is clueless.  There is no one who is exempt from the attacks.  Anyone who might question the backslider, correct the backslider, convict the backslider, rebuke the backslider, or confront the backslider is the enemy.  Backsliders are self-sufficient and dependent on no one.  Anyone in their way who disagrees with their direction will be run over.  The brave who stand up to them will receive their ire and probably their wrath.

Unfortunately, self-destruction is really a misnomer.  There is really no such thing as self destruction that stands alone.  When one self-destructs, he takes others with him. If he were the only one affected, maybe his behavior could be overlooked.  After all his bad choices would only be affecting his own life.  Sadly, that is not life.  He does the opposite of throwing himself on the hand grenade for others.  He throws others on the hand grenade for him.  That is what the self-lover (which is what a self-destructor is) does not realize.  He hurts those around him, as much or more as he hurts himself.  Sometimes even more because he has to drain feelings from himself to carry on this self-destruction, but those around him retain their feelings and those feelings feel pain.

When someone puts his own desires first, none will thrive.  Not him, not those around him.  The Lord of the Rings tells the story of two hobbit-like people named Sméagol and Déagol who decided one day to go fishing. Ordinarily they were simple folk who could find delight in the smallest things, but everything changed for these two when, in the course of their fishing expedition, Déagol finds a ring on the bottom of the river. This ring, however, was no ordinary ring, for it had been designed by the evil warlord Sauron and promised to grant great powers to its wearer.  Seeing the ring, Sméagol instantly wanted to have it, and upon Déagol’s refusal to hand it over, “he caught Déagol by the throat and strangled him, because the gold looked so bright and beautiful.”

This story shows what happens when we covet something or someone else.  Our desire to have what belongs to another can twist us into to people we can hardly recognize.  If our sinful desires cannot be resisted, reputation, families, careers, and lives can be ruined.  If we find ourselves going off the path of righteousness, even slightly, we must right our course.  Proverbs 12:12 says, “Whoever is wicked covets the spoil of evildoers, but the root of the righteous bears fruit.”  We cannot sow wickedness and expect to reap righteousness.  The saying “so far so good” can be trumped by another saying, “All’s well that ends well.”  Sinful self-destruction does not end well.  It will never end well.  Not for the sinner and not for the innocent.  Those who backslide plunge into a pool whose ripples will go out to distances and places not imagined.

We need to keep ourselves on the right paths, so that others know where they, too, can travel. We must speak up when we see a wanderer even if we will face derision.  We need to remember the truth revealed in Psalm 119:1, “How happy are those whose way is blameless, who live according to the LORD’s instruction!”  We need to spread that truth.  God has promised us that “(He) will make known to (us) the path of life; and in (His) presence there is fullness of joy; and at (His) right hand are pleasures forevermore.”  (Psalm 16:11)  Why would we walk any other path?  Why would anyone?

“Therefore, no condemnation now exists for those in Christ Jesus.” Romans 8:1

Last week I wrote about guilt and pointed out that guilt can be like pain.  It can alert us to a problem that needs to be taken care of.  Many see guilt as bad because it can cause psychological problems like insecurity and tension and physical problems like headaches and weight loss or gain.  But the sense of guilt needs to be examined because some guilt is false and harmful and some guilt is real and helpful.  In the last devotion  I talked about guilt that was helpful.  I mentioned the guilt that is pointing out a wrong in our life that needs to be dealt with.  If Satan had his druthers, he would have us ignore real guilt and dwell on false guilt.  If that is what Satan wants, that is what we should not do.  The key is, how do we tell the difference between good guilt and bad.

Recognizing our real guilt is what leads us to Christ. If we do not understand real guilt, we would never come to a saving faith in Jesus.  One of the first steps in receiving the gift of salvation is understanding that we are sinful people separated from a Holy God.  If we ignore those feelings of guilt, we will never take the step of receiving the sacrifice of Christ and would never experience a new life in Him.  The guilt is not the problem.  Sin is the problem.  Guilt points us to the solution.  In that way, guilt is sometimes very good because is saves us from a terrible consequence that will take place if we do not change course.  False guilt, however, does not lead to freedom, but to imprisonment.  That is why we need to be able to tell the difference.

For everything that is real, there is a counterfeit.  Expensive clothes, jewelry, and even electronics all have their cheap knockoffs.  There is hardly a name brand that doesn’t have is its generic step-sibling.  Sometimes the fakery goes beyond products.  One man made over a half-million dollars in three years selling fake diplomas and medical certificates to people who went on to the medical field.  Things can be counterfeit, people can be counterfeit, so it stands to reason that feelings can be counterfeit.  Many of us can carry around a false sense of guilt that holds us back.  We assume that if we feel guilty, we must be guilty.  That guilt becomes destructive when it keeps us dwelling on the wrong things and prevents us from experiencing the right things.

There is a sad short story called “The Necklace.”  It is about a young woman, Mathilde, who is dissatisfied with her life and looks longingly at the lives of the “upper crust” women around her.  Her husband returns from work one day with an invitation to a gala ball and she cries because she has nothing to wear.  The husband, then, uses up personal savings to buy her a dress, but she is still distraught.  She has no nice jewelry.  The husband knows he can’t afford anything, so he suggests that Mathilde go to friend who is rich and borrow something.  She picks out a wonderful necklace, attends the ball, and leaves her husband on the sidelines while she dances her heart away.

Finally, Mathilde and her husband head for home and when they arrive, she realizes she has lost the necklace.  Distraught she goes to a local jeweler, picks out a necklace exactly the same, and returns that one to the owner who was non-the wiser.  Unfortunately, the necklace costs more than her husband can make in a lifetime.  So they take out loans from unscrupulous characters, and to pay them off, they sell their modest home and move to tiny apartment, both take on two jobs, and work their fingers to the bone.  Working night and day, the couple age rapidly and one day Mathilde’s path crosses with the original owner of the necklace.  The rich woman does not even recognize Mathilde because she has changed so much.  The woman makes a comment about it and Mathilde says her terrible condition is the woman’s fault.  Mathilde goes on to tell her the story of losing the necklace, the the subsequent loans, jobs, and poverty that resulted from replacing the necklace.

The woman clasps Mathilde’s hands and tells her
the necklace was imitation and not worth anything.  It was one of the saddest endings to any of the short stories I taught through the years. Believing the false is real can only lead to disaster.

We need to examine our guilt and get to the bottom of it.  When I coached and received criticism, I always listened.  After I listened I did one of two things.  If it was legitimate, I took it as advice and made the necessary changes.  If it was not legitimate, I forgot about it.  That is what we should do with guilt.  Guilt is criticizing something in our life.  If it exposes truth, we should make changes.  If it is built on a
falsehood, we should ignore it and go on. Sometimes we feel guilty over something that doesn’t violate God’s standards, but fails to to meet our own or other people’s expectations. God’s standards are important.  They will always be higher than man’s standards.  If we concern ourselves only about what God thinks, we will not have to worry much about what man thinks.  Guilt because we cannot reach others standards is often false guilt and eats us up from the inside.  We need to believe God more than our feelings.  He is a lot more reliable.

Another false feeling of guilt that plagues many is dwelling on past sins that God has already forgiven. True guilt exposes present sins, false guilt constantly reminds of past sins.  If we have taken care of those sins, we don’t need to constantly scratch at the old wound to keep it fresh.  A woman once broke an expensive vase of a friend.  She took the vase with her to repair, but it was unrepairable.  Her friend visited her and noticed the vase cracked and ugly sitting on a desk and asked her why it was there.  She replied that it was to remind her of her transgression.  The woman walked over, grabbed the vase, dropped it in the garbage and said she had forgiven her long ago and it was time she forgave herself.  We sometimes like to leave our past mistakes on display so we can be reminded of them.  If we have cleaned up our mess and truly confessed, it is time to remember what God says, not what Satan says.  Satan will condemn us but Romans 8:1 says: “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Whenever we feel condemned, we need to recognize it as the malevolence of the enemy who is trying to rob us of the peace that is ours through Christ.

The Holy Spirit convicts us and Satan condemns us.  Condemnation is not the same as conviction.  Satan helps us to ignore actual wrongdoing. The key for us is to discern between the guilt that our flesh, Satan, and the world heaps on us and the necessary guilt that can lead to healing.  We need to praise God that He has forgiven our sins.  If we don’t understand God’s great mercy, we will still be shackled by chains that have been unlocked.  We need to take a stand and refuse to accept guilt for that which has been forgiven.  Reading the Word, surrounding ourselves with believers, listening to worshipful music, staying in the Word, and listening to instructional sermons can all help us to discern where our feelings originate.

There are many things we feel guilty about, but another burden
Satan puts on us is our inability to fix all things.  We cannot make everything right.  We cannot undo things that have been done.  We can’t make someone be who God wishes them to be.  There are restrictions on what we can do in this life and we cannot allow the guilt about not being fixers of all woes make us feel guilty.  A favorite saying of mine is, “I cannot do all things, but I can do some things.  Those things that I can do, I should do.  Those things that I should do, by God’s grace, I will do.”  We cannot carry around guilt about pasts we cannot change, people we cannot mold, or promises we cannot keep.  Some things just will be, regardless of how hard we try to change the outcome.  We need to concentrate on the Lord and identify with the words of Mary in Luke “and my spirit has begun to rejoice in God my Savior,”  If we look to His adequacy, we will look less at our own inadequacies.

We should not let the false chains of guilt to hold us back, but if our guilt is real, we should confess the sin, turn from it, and not let Satan accuse us of it again. We have a “glorious freedom (as) the children of God” (Rom. 8:21), and we should live in that glory.    Psalm 32:5 reminds us, “Then I acknowledged my sin to you . . .and you forgave the guilt of my sin.”   True repentance takes away the guilt of our sin and this brings true freedom from our sin.  We need to hold onto and believe what God says in Romans 8:31-35 “. . . who can separate us from the love of Christ?”  Satan can’t, the world can’t, our flesh can’t, and false guilt can’t.  When we step from the prison of sin, it is time to change clothes.  Ephesians 4 tells us “You were taught with reference to your former way of life to lay aside the old man who is being corrupted in accordance with deceitful desires, to be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and to put on the new man who has been created in God’s image—in righteousness and holiness that comes from truth.”  Why should we wear the uniform of our prison life any longer.  We should put on the new clothes of salvation.  Why should we look or act like prisoners any longer.  True guilt leads us to the keys of the prison; false guilt leads takes us back.  Let’s learn to recognize the difference between the exit and entrance.