Month: May 2022

If you type in the keyword confidence in Amazon books you will get over 14,000 titles that have something to do with confidence.  Writing with confidence, walking in confidence,  confidence in the workplace, confidence in dating, confidence in confidence, the list goes on and on.  There are thousands of articles, programs, and tapes on gaining confidence, retaining confidence, and sustaining confidence.  People pay boku bucks for seminars, speakers, and even swindlers with formulas that turn the shrinking violet into a fearless flower.  Some of these confidence peddlers even propagate their promises from the pulpit, forgoing a spiritual confidence for a humanistic form of positive thinking.

Norman Vincent Peale, Robert Schuller, and Joel Olsteen and many, many others teach a pseudo-Christian message that bases our confidence entirely on our own efforts.  That would be fine if they admitted that they were secularists and their message was a New Age Humanist concoction of many religions, group think, and psycho-babble, but that, unfortunately, is not the case.  They throw in some scriptures, hold up the Bible once in a while and stand behind unusually large pulpits, and in so doing, make a case that their advice must be Biblical.  Well, to pull our a quote from my youth, I find Peale appalling and Paul appealing.  True confidence does not from within us, but from the spirit within us.  The above purveyors of muck attempt to make us totally self-reliant, denying any need for God,
and yet purport to be men of God.

God outlines Who and what we can have confidence in and how that confidence can be foundational to our daily lives.   First of all, we can have confidence in our relationship with God.  Why, because of the sacrifice of Christ on our behalf.  The writer of Hebrews states, “Therefore, brothers and sisters, since we have confidence to enter the sanctuary by the blood of Jesus, by the fresh and living way that he inaugurated for us through the curtain, that is, through his flesh, and since we have a great priest over the house of God, let us draw near with a sincere heart in the assurance that faith brings, because we have had our hearts sprinkled clean from an evil conscience and our bodies washed in pure water.  And let us hold unwaveringly to the hope that we confess, for the one who made the promise is trustworthy.” (Hebrews 10:19-23)    The above verses tell us that we can be confident to enter into the presence of God because we have been made clean by the sprinkling of Christ’s blood.  We can draw near to the holy God because the One we hold onto is trustworthy.   Second Corinthians 3:4,5 says, “Such confidence we have through Christ toward God. Not that we are adequate in ourselves to consider anything as coming from ourselves, but our adequacy is from God.”

The other day I asked one of my co-workers how he was doing, and he said,  “Pretty good, considering the circumstances.”  He is a believer,
so I mentioned that we will seldom do “really” good if we stay IN our circumstances.  We need to be ABOVE our circumstances because that is where Christ awaits to strengthen us.  Christ gives us the confidence to rise above the world around us and to enter into peace and strength through Him.

We can be confident that God will strengthen us and is there when we need Him.  Again Paul tells us, “For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.”  (Philippians 1:6)  We will go through difficulties, but we can be assured that while we are in His hands, nothing can thwart God’s plans.   As He has told us,  “(We) can do all things through Him who strengthens (us).  (Philippians 4:13)  Our confidence can be based on who the Lord is, not who we are.   When we get overconfident in ourselves, we stop feeling a need for God.  When we stop feeling a need for God, we are, in essence, replacing God.  When we replace God with ourselves, we are, in essence, saying we are equal to God.  That is not confidence; that is ludicrous.

There is the story of a great politician who was asked how he was able to keep himself in prospective when so many others put him on a pedestal.  “When I begin to think too highly of myself I walk outside and look at the night sky.  It only take a matter of minutes to realize how small I really am.  If I am to have confidence it should be in the one who made the stars instead of the one who can only look at them.”

Our confidence should come from Him because He is willing to supply it.   “Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the LORD your God is the one who goes with you He will not fail you or forsake you.”  ( Deuteronomy 31:6)  The verse does not say be strong and courageous because we are strong and courageous but because God goes with us is and  He “…will be (our)  confidence and will keep (our feet) from being caught.  (Proverbs 3:26)

End of Part 1

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.” 1 Corinthians 13:4

A while back I showed the grandkids a video that illustrated true kindness and the way we should live it out in our lives.The video showed a waitress having a bad day.  One man was especially mean to her.  The waitress’s son was sitting at the counter watching the way she was being treated.  In walked a man who obviously had some special needs.  He sat down and kindly asked how much the big muffins were.  The waitress told him and he slowly counted out his money and then said he would just have a cup of coffee and small donut. When he left the waitress  looked down and he had left her a tip.  He had not gotten what he wanted because it would not have left enough for the tip.  It made waitress’s day, it made her son’s day, and dare I say, it probably made the man’s day as well.

Kindness is one of those rare things that the more we give, the more we have.  It doesn’t diminish as we give it out.  We can never run out of it because our supply house is in heaven.  When God sees we have given kindness, He automatically replaces it and we don’t even have to put in an order.  The writer of Hebrews tells us, “For God is not unjust so as to forget your work and the love which you have shown toward His name, in having ministered and in still ministering to the saints.” (Hebrews 6:10)  God notices what we do.  He knows our hearts.  He rewards our kindness.

If we want to tell others about Jesus, we need to show them Jesus.  All the words in the world won’t negate unkind acts.  As someone once said, “It is nice to be important, but it is more important to be nice.”  The smallest act can sometimes reap the mightiest of rewards. There once was a man who stopped by a small hotel, but the hotel was full.  The man however was very tired and had no place to turn.  The hotel manager, who lived at the hotel, offered him his own room.  The next day the man left letting the manager know he would never forget his kindness.  He was true to his word.  He eventually built one of the largest hotels in Chicago and called the man to be its manager.  The man gave up his bed and received a hotel in exchange.  It should be noticed that people who do things that count, seldom take time to count them.

I would be remiss if I didn’t point out that kindness doesn’t always seem to result in reward- at least right away.  Man sometimes isn’t the best at saying thanks, but on the other hand, God never forgets good deeds.  We don’t get God’s love, forgiveness, or salvation from kindness, but we do get His attention.  Sometimes a smile from God is all we need to keep us going and every once in a while we will even get a smile from someone else.

The kindest man to ever live was Jesus Himself.   Every act He did was while on His way to the cross.  Some of the kind things He did were for those who would later turn their backs on him.  The greatest kindness of all was His sacrifice on the cross and that was for all us.  None of us deserved a kindness so great.  If He who gave so much, empowers us to do just a little, should we not do it?  The tiniest act of kindness may be our introduction of Jesus to others.  Without kindness, many would not desire to know Him.  It is said that kindness is the one language that the deaf can hear and the blind can see.  Jesus proved that in His miraculous ministry.  We can prove that in our daily lives.

So whether it is a kind word, a short note, a pat on the back, or a tiny act, kindness can go a long way.  No other book says it better, and no other Man did it better.  Solomon left us this wise piece of advice in proverbs, “Do not let kindness and truth leave you; Bind them around your neck, Write them on the tablet of your heart.” (Proverbs 3:3)   We need to treat people nice, not because they are, but because Christ is.  We don’t need another kind of army; we need an army of the kind.  Let’s enlist.

Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32

A few devotions ago I talked about the second half of this verse (forgiveness), but today I would like to cover the first half, “Be kind and compassionate to one another.”  Kindness seems to be a rare commodity now-a-days.  Life is moving so fast, that taking time for little kindnesses seems too much of a diversion.  But kindness is one of the most important ingredients for good gospel-giving and since sharing the good news is one of our primary purposes in life, kindness, too, should be an important part of our lives.

Kindness is not natural to most of us.  We have to intentionally set out to make it part of our day.  Someone told me once that if a kind act does not come naturally, it does not “count,” but I find that pretty restrictive.  Which is better- the person who sees the little old lady pushing a heavy cart and without thinking goes over to help her or the person who sees her, starts to go past, catches himself and goes back to help.  Both are equal.  The act was the important part.  The act was meaningful to the little old lady whether it was natural or thought out.

In Colossians we read, “So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.”  (Colossians 3:12)  The phase “put on” indicates an intentional act,  just like putting on our coat when the weather is cold.  We see it is cold and we reach for our coat.  God asks us to put on the coat of kindness every day.   We should wear it at all times so that it becomes a part of us.  We should feel naked without our mantle of kindness on.  Eventually, it will become more natural to us, and it will become our first instinct rather than our last.

We might try to use the “I don’t have the gift” excuse to avoid kindess, but that is a real stretch.  KIndness is not a special gift given to only a few. Galatians 5:22-23 says,”But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”   Notice that is says fruit, not fruits.  If these were plural, we might feel inclined to pick and choose which ones we might want to illustrate in our lives.  We might say that we have the gift of love but not self-control.  But each of the things above are what we possess if we possess the Holy Spirit.  We would be hard-pressed to use the excuse that we are not kind because we don’t have the gift of kindness.  We all have been given the gift of kindness; it is part of the fruit of the spirit.

There is a wonderful video that I showed the grandkids during one of the Nana Camp’s when we had all the grandkids with us.  It was about a young boy who lost his father and one day a stranger came up along side of the boy while he was walking to school.  They began to talk and every morning the man would walk alongside the boy.  They talked and shared and built an incredible relationship.  Eventually the boy graduated and soon after found out the man had died and he returned for his funeral.  It was there, while talking to the man’s wife that he found out that the man was not on his way to work every morning like he had hinted, but that his work was the opposite way.  The boy ask the wife why he had done that, walked many blocks out of way, every day for many years and she said, “when you lost your father, he knew you needed a friend and once you had one, he didn’t want to take it away.”  That is kindness.  The intentional, considerate, care for another in a time of need.

When I taught at Douglas we had a nationally renowned special education program.  Students in the class were the kindest young people in our school.  They gave daily lessons on hugging, kind words, and trust.  When they extended a kind hand, it never had any ulterior motives.  It was just a kind hand.  Simply, they treated people with love and kindness.  Our kindnesses should be without evil motives, and should be out of love and concern for others.  Kindness is an unselfish demonstration of concern.  It is doing something for someone who will never be able to pay us back.