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“Repent of your wickedness and pray to the Lord. Perhaps he will forgive your evil thoughts,” (Acts 8:22)

There is much said on guilt by psychoanalysts, psychiatrists, ministers, hairdressers, and even bartenders.  They have all heard their share of guilt stories and most of the time guilt is looked upon as a bad thing.  A quick google search will reveal a lot more information about the destructiveness of guilt than its value.  Guilt is almost always looked at as a negative, but if we look at guilt as a negative, it is easy to miss positives that true guilt can play in our lives.

The dictionary calls guilt “the act or state of having done a wrong or committed an offense.”  This is pretty straight forward.  Guilt is an indicator something going wrong. It is the negative feeling that accompanies a negative behavior.  Guilt in itself is not wrong.  It is the warning light on the dash board of our car.  In society today, we are basically told to cover up that light.  We are told it is wrong to feel guilty and so we are told, in essence, to deal with the symptoms of guilt rather than the causes the guilt.

Guilt originated in the garden.  Adam and Eve ate of the one thing that was forbidden and they hid.  They were not experiencing some sort of false guilt planted by Satan.  They were facing the real feelings of guilt after the real trespass of God’s commands.  After they presented themselves to God, God did not tell them to wipe out those evil guilt feelings from their mind.  He was not angry for their guilty feelings, but for their rebellious actions.  Guilt was not the wrong.  It was an indicator of wrong.  Because of the trespasses in the garden we know that “all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23)  So sin is with us always, regardless of the message the world tries to give.

Later in the New Testament, Jesus used the hypocrisy of men to save an adulterous woman from stoning.  After all the would-be “stoners” walked away, Jesus did not tell the woman to go and not feel guilty any longer because she had a reason to feel guilty.  He asked her who was there to condemn her.  “She replied, ‘No one, Lord.’ And Jesus said, ‘I do not condemn you either. Go, and from now on do not sin any more.'” (John 8:31)   He told her to go and sin no more. He did not deal with the symptom of sin, but the act of sin.  He told her to stop the action that led to guilt.  To often today we stir real guilt and false guilt both in the same pot and make the feelings the same.  The consequence of this is a lot of people not dealing with root causes of their sinfulness.  John tells us in 1 John 2:1 “My little children, these things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous.”  We need to deal with the sin, not just the feelings of sin.

I have told the story many times about the man who would just walk up and hit people for no reason.  He felt terribly guilty about it and went to therapy.  After months of therapy, he finally felt cured and shared his relief with a friend.  “I still  hit people for no reason, but I don’t I don’t feel guilty any more.”  A humorous story, but all too true today.  We are told not to feel guilty about acts that we should feel guilty about. If we remove the guilt, we will not deal with the acts.  Guilt is often the vehicle that transports us to a place of healing so we should not ignore it.

Down deep we know when we are guilty, and we don’t want to face reality, so dealing with the surface feelings becomes much easier than dealing with the deeper truths.  Two men were on trial for armed robbery. An eyewitness took the stand, and the prosecutor slowly moved to what would be his climatic conclusion of questioning. “So, you say you were at the scene when the robbery took place?”

“Yes,” the witness answered.

“And you saw a vehicle leave at a high rate of speed?”

“Yes,” the witness answered again.

“And did you observe the occupants?”

“Yes, two men.”

“And,” the prosecutor boomed, “are those two men present in court today?” He turned and faced the defendants.  At this point the two defendants sealed their fate. They raised their hands.  We know when we are guilty, we often just need to come clean.

If we would just test our guilt feelings, we would realize that many of them have a legitimate basis.  There was an NFL player back in the day who had terrible pain in his knees.  He would just have them shot up with pain killers and play the games anyway.  After years of doing this, he retired and his knees were beyond repair.  He was virtually a cripple.  The pain in his knees was an indicator that there was something wrong that needed to be dealt with.  Covering up the pain was like us covering up our guilt; it keeps us from dealing with the root problem and it will just continue to get worse.  Soon it will cripple us.  Guilt is often a warning sign, flashing away, letting us know there is a malfunction and we must take the time to look at problem and deal with it.

As is the way of the world, everything is topsy-turvy.  Legitimate guilt is made to seem false, and false guilt is made to seem legitimate.  We are told we shouldn’t feel guilty about acts of sin, but we should feel guilty about acts of righteousness.  We are told that any guilt we might carry inside our hearts by being separated by our savior is illegitimate.  But we are also told that if we shake the forbidden fruit from the tree and eat, we should shake off the guilty feelings that will follow.  There is only one way to shake off the guilt and Dr. Luke tells us how in Acts, “Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord.” (Acts 3:19)  You notice he doesn’t say, “just don’t feel bad anymore.”  That just doesn’t work.

There is a lot more authentic and necessary guilt out there that are signposts pointing to disaster than there are bouts of false guilt.  We must not fear guilt any more than we fear the burglar alarm going off on the back porch.  We should not fear the alarm, but the burglar. We should not fear the guilty feelings but the actions that set them off.  Of course, there is such a thing as false guilt and the key is how do we distinguish between good guilt and bad guilt.  Next week I will get into how we tell the difference. Until then have a great week…

Part 2

If you have not read last week’s devotion, you might want to check it out (or review it).  This is a continuation of the same theme and it might not make sense without a quick revisiting of last week…

…So the only way to properly look at ourselves and the world around us is by looking at the Word before looking at ourselves and others.  If we know the Word, we will not put things in it that are not there.  We will not take our pet peeves and create verses to support them.  We will be able to see what things are breaking God’s Word and what things are just breaking our hearts.  We won’t let irritations become foundations to our beliefs.  Secondly, we need to check our own behavior to see if it could adversely affect others.  Is what we are doing so important that we would risk another person in the process?  If our actions can hurt others who are less mature in the faith, maybe the deed is not worth doing.  Lastly, we should be slow to judge others.  When we impose our list of personal dislikes onto others in relation to spirituality, it is wrong.

Can we look at murder and say that it is spiritually wrong?  Yes, scripture plainly states that it is.  Can we say that playing electric guitar for worship songs is spiritually wrong?  No, I am pretty sure that is not in the Bible.  Can we not like certain things? Sure, but we can’t build false doctrines on these things.  We can’t condemn someone to eternal fire because they don’t do everything we do.  We should not stumble ourselves or others, bottom line.

I heard a story one time about a man, we will call him Ed, who hated long hair on a man, so much so, he questioned whether a man with long hair could even be saved.  While out of town he visited a church and met a man in the lobby that had his hair pulled back into a long pony tail.  He had an immediate dislike for the man, who he had assumed was immature in the Lord (if he was in the Lord at all).  When the service began, the pastor called the man with long hair forward and thanked him for playing Jesus in the Easter play the week before.  Ed squirmed a little in his seat. The pastor then spoke of how the man had lost his sister to cancer and had agreed to grow out his hair for the play if people would pledge so much per inch for the local cancer center.  The pastor had him lean his head back and measured his hair.  It was 14 inches long.  With all the pledges from the church and community, the man raised almost $15,000 for the center.  That day Ed was changed.  Whenever he found himself judging others for inconsequential things, he would close his eyes and picture the man with his head tilted back, hair being measured, and instead of being critical Ed would measure his own actions against the Word of God.

So let’s not make doctrinal mountains out of spiritual molehills.  There have been church splits  and even family splits over things that don’t matter.  We get upset at little things and turn our backs on the big.  That seems to be the norm in every part of the world right now.  We pick and choose what to be enraged about and what to be accepting of, and we most often choose wrong.  Look at some of our own country’s stances on world issues.  We picket because of a single shooting of an individual, but accept the killing of thousands of innocents in the womb.  We change laws to give women in our country free birth control, but ignore that over 90% of women in some countries go through forced mutilation.  We get all bent out of shape if we don’t give more than equal rights to homosexuals, but in some countries that we support homosexuals are being executed daily.  I could go on and on to show the unbalanced views that exist in this world.

Unfortunately, we do much of the same in the church.  We get upset at the attire that someone wears to our church and then listen with glee to a dynamic pastor on TV who blasphemes the Word of God but does it with charisma.  There is a pastor named Mark Driscoll who started what was called the Mars Church about ten years ago.  He is a good speaker and I listened to a few of his sermons quite a few years back.  I even subscribed to his podcast which was one of the most popular on iTunes.  One day while driving I listened to a sermon on his thoughts on sanctification and I was blown away by what he said.  As soon as I got home, I unsubscribed to his podcast and erased everything I had by him on my iPod.  What he said was completely unbiblical and crass on top of that.  Yet he had and continued to have a loyal following of thousands and had hundreds of churches in his network.  That was until a few years ago when it all came tumbling down. A whole lot of his weak theological beliefs, questionable personal decisions, shady economic moves, and unethical behaviors  were exposed and he was  asked to step down under a very dark cloud.  Yet, he still has his followers.  Many have jumped on the anti-bandwagon, but many of those are the same ones who accepted his teaching for years and just didn’t listen to it.  Pastor Driscoll once told one of his elders to step down because his “fatness” embarrassed him and the church.  He was worried about the “fatness” of others rather than the “leanness” of his preaching.

Here is the point of this.  Pastor Driscoll has been way off from the beginning, but he snookered even well-known pastors into supporting his efforts because his efforts were “cool.”  He was a hip new pastor who was bringing in numbers.  His church growth and church planting was on fire.  Unfortunately, much of what he said about the word needed to be tossed in the fire.  Yet, people flocked behind him.  Many of those people probably had really strong feelings about the stilted services of the past.  Their new approach to worship was the “right way” and the funky ways of old were not only passé, but probably unbiblical.  His was the new blue-jean worship leader that brought in enthusiasm and fervor.  So people accepted him and rejected the Word.  Now everyone is in repair mode.  My point?  We should spend more time worrying about truth than we do about peripherals that mean little in the kingdom.

So let’s not get our spiritual undies in a knot over what doesn’t even matter at the expense of what really does matter.  The truth of God’s word matters.  There was a Methodist church that split over the color of the pews.  A Methodist church which accepts every liberal cause and slant in today’s society.  A Methodist church which has homosexual pastors and will not allow the blood to mentioned in their hymnals.  A Methodist church which is on the cutting edge of every anti-spiritual activist cause and has founder John Wesley spinning in his grave.  That same Methodist church is worried about the color of its pews.

We need to prioritize our lives and especially our spiritual lives.  2 Timothy 3:16 tells us that,  “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness.”  Only the scripture should be our standard for how we look at the world.  When we get caught up in the petty it will almost always be at the cost of the important.  As Christians we should take stands for Truth and Christ is Truth.   It is too exhausting to get caught up in the minor and we won’t have enough strength to take on the major.

I belong to a great gospel giving group called the Pocket Testament League.  This group is dedicated to presenting the gospel to the world through devotionals and the Gospel of John.

Here is an example of the contents of one of their booklets.  Enjoy!

The World’s Greatest Message

 ”Love is patient, love is kind, it is not envious. Love does not brag, it is not puffed up.  It is not rude, it is not self-serving, it is not easily angered or resentful.  It is not glad about injustice, but rejoices in the truth.  It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”  1 Corinthians 13:4-7

All this quarantine stuff has really made me think.  Not being around the family as much has made me realize how easily we can take things for granted.  I can tend to overlook that God has given me such wonderful blessings such as a house, church, safety, friends, and a wonderful family.  Especially family.  If you are like me, I often forget how special that is.  There are those that have no one, and that is not Elaine and me.  We have family to share our laughter and our burdens, and that is a wonderful thing.  The above verse from the love chapter in Corinthians explains how important it to love one another.

Someone once said we should write the good that others do on a rock and the bad they do on the sand to be washed away.  I think that good advice.  If we are not forgiving of others (and especially our family)  for their inadequacies (of which we all have many) the good they do will be overlooked (and there is much good they do)  and the negative will be accentuated (and will cloud our  feelings).  Because we expect more out of those closest to us, we are sometimes much more forgiving of non-family than family; often in the same way that we are more forgiving of non-Christians than Christians (another type of family).

The closer people are to each other, the more they can become irritating.  Porcupines find that out!  Our pokiness will be most apparent to those who get closest to us.  As most of you know you know I don’t shave as often as I should.  To often I let my half beard reach the yucky-pokey state. (When I do that, passers-by drop quarters in my coffee cup!)   When I was telling the grandkids good bye, my beard poked their cheeks and they usually react with an “ouch.”  No other people are particularly  bothered by my beard (well, maybe the looks, but not the feel) because I don’t get that close to anyone else.  When we get close to people like we do in a family, that pokiness is the chance we take, but that is why it is doubly important to remember that  “love is patient.”

Paul tells us in Galatians 5 that “the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Now those who belong to Christ have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.  If we live by the Spirit, let us also behave in accordance with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, being jealous of one another.”  A young Sunday schooler whose vocabulary was not quite developed  read the last part of these verses and said, “poking” one another instead of “provoking” one another.  But is that not accurate?   Many a family back seat has become a rumble-tumble seat because of poking.  If I had a quarter for every time I have heard, “He is poking me”  I would be in the top 1%.  By the way, kids are not the only ones who poke.  

 Notice the key in the above verse-  Living by the Spirit.  There is nothing more frustrating than trying to do all the above things in our own strength.   The problem with us is that we so often do that-  We know what the Christian walk is all about and we try to walk it on our own.  As Barney Fife used to say, “Not goin’ to happen.”

We have all been in the situation where the people that we love most anger us the most easily.  It hurts much more later because we know that “A joyful heart makes the face cheerful, but by a painful heart the spirit is broken” (Proverbs 15:13) and we hate breaking the spirit of those close to us.  God calls us to be more Christ-like and to see what Christ was like when He was sent by God.  Even though we have rejected God, rebelled against God, He is patient with us, and  ”isn’t easily angered” (Exodus 34:6).  Instead of giving us what we deserve, He sent Christ to die for us.  He made a sacrifice; He gave his only Son on our behalf  (John 3:16).   That is the kind of love we need to strive for through the spirit.  Sacrificing love that puts others needs before our own.  Love that looks beyond the negative and looks at others through the eyes of God.   We need to put others before ourselves even if they’ve hurt us or angered us,.  We need to be patient with them because love is patient and we are called to patiently love.

Most of us have so much less drama than many families, and we should be thankful (ever watch Jerry Springer, Dr. Phil, or Judge Judy? Wow!).  We need to be there for each other always.  Sometimes we marry into the better or worse covenant, but families have a covenant they are born into it.  We sometimes pick our extended family but God chooses our close family.  Thank you, God, for giving us family.

“Love is patient, love is kind, it is not envious. Love does not brag, it is not puffed up.  It is not rude, it is not self-serving, it is not easily angered or resentful.  It is not glad about injustice, but rejoices in the truth.  It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”  1 Corinthians 13:4-7

The other morning I was thinking how easy it is to take things for granted.  I forget that God has given me such wonderful blessings such as a house, church, safety, friends, and a wonderful family.  Especially family.  If you are like me, I often forget how special that is.  There are those that have no one, but that is not my family.  We have each other to share our laughter and our burdens, and that is a wonderful thing.  The above verse from the love chapter in Corinthians explains how important it to love one another.

Someone once said we should write the good that others do on a rock and the bad they do on the sand to be washed away.  I think that is good advice.  If we are not forgiving of others (and especially our family)  for their inadequacies (of which we all have many) the good they do will be overlooked (and there is much good they do)  and the negative will be accentuated (and will cloud our  feelings).  Because we expect more out of those closest to us, we are sometimes much more forgiving of non-family than family; often in the same way that we are more forgiving of non-Christians than Christians (another type of family).

The closer people are to each other, the more they can become irritating.  Porcupines find that out!  Our pokiness will be most apparent to those who get closest to us.  As you can sometimes tell, I don’t always shave and my half beard gets in the yucky pokey state. (I try to stay shaved because people keep dropping money in my coffee cup when I am in the scruffy state).  One time I was with the grandkids and I was telling Gracie good bye and my beard poked her cheek and she reacted with an “ouch.”  Not one other person that weekend was bothered by my beard (well, maybe the looks, but not the feel) because I did not get that close to anyone else.  When we get close to people like we do in a family, pokiness (I think this is a made up word) is the chance we take, but that is why it is doubly important to remember that  “love is patient.”

Paul tells us in Galatians 5 that “the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Now those who belong to Christ have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.  If we live by the Spirit, let us also behave in accordance with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, being jealous of one another.”  Notice the key here.  Living by the Spirit.  There is nothing more frustrating than trying to do all the above things in our own strength.   The problem with us is that we so often try to do that.  We know what the Christian walk is all about and we try to walk it on our own.  As Barney Fife used to say, “Not goin’ to happen.”

We have all been in the situation where the people that we love most anger us the most.  It hurts much more later because we know that “A joyful heart makes the face cheerful, but by a painful heart the spirit is broken” (Proverbs 15:13) and we hate breaking the spirit of those close to us.  God calls us to be more Christ-like and what did Christ look like when He was sent by God?  He was everything Galatians 5 calls us to be. 

We should be patient with others because God is patient with us.  Exodus 34:6 tells us He ”isn’t easily angered.“  Instead of giving us what we deserve, He sent Christ to die for us.  He made a sacrifice; He gave his only Son on our behalf  (John 3:16).   That is the kind of love we need to strive for through the spirit; sacrificing love that puts others needs before our own.  Love that looks beyond the negative and looks at others through the eyes of God.   We need to put others before ourselves even if they’ve hurt us or angered us,.  We need to be patient with them because love is patient and we are called to patiently love.

We have much less drama than many families I know, and I should be thankful (ever watch Jerry Springer, Dr. Phil, or Judge Judy? Wow!).  Members of families need to be there for each other.  Sometimes we marry into the better or worse covenant, but families have the same covenant, only they are born into it.  Thank you to my family for being so easy love (and I will try to be easier to love, but until then be patient!). Thank you, God, for giving us family.